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Choices Chapter 1

29 Jun

Chapter 1





Waking up next to Darius every morning, and feeling his strong arms embrace her medium brown torso, seemed like a dream that Melissa had been reliving daily for almost seventeen years. Darius had a unique way of exploring Melissa’s five-foot-eight-inch frame with his hands as he fondled her tawny tone body.

They seemed to fall continuously in love with each other. Darius was a romancer and making love to him always brought a sense of oneness to Melissa, spiritually and emotionally over and over again.

The alarm clock’s siren and the sound of mumbling voices from the boys’ bedroom ended the sensual love scene in the Edwards’ bedroom.

“Good morning, baby. I really enjoyed you last night. We made the best of love,” Darius whispered as he stretched his arms and reached over to finger her light brown hair out of her face so he could see her hazel eyes clearly.

“I love you,” Melissa whispered softly.

“I guess the boys are up already,” Darius whispered in Melissa’s ear, seemingly frustrated about the ending of what could have been another episode of major lovemaking. He attempted to caress her curvy body with his fingertips as he had done the night before.

She moved hastily out of bed to start their morning together as a family. “I enjoyed you too but we really need to get going. I want to get to the mall before it gets too crowded. I have to get Grandpa Jimmy a birthday gift today.”

As Melissa sauntered toward the bathroom, Darius trailed behind her, watching her walk gracefully. She captivated his attention with every step she took, epitomizing elegance. She was his jewel, his precious diamond. She was his wife.

 He grabbed her by her thin waistline and pulled her in close as she stood in the bathroom mirror brushing her hair.

 “I want some more of you, baby! I really do,” he whispered in her ear as he stood behind her.

 “I want you, too.” Melissa turned her head slightly toward Darius to kiss him on the cheek. She loved the affection he showed her every day. Their bedroom was always a place of solace for them.

 As she undressed for the shower, he could smell her natural fragrance, and it was an aphrodisiac for him.

 “I’ll tell the boys to get ready while you start your shower,” he said while smiling before leaving the bathroom.

 “Okay, honey. Can you make sure they get some cereal for breakfast? I don’t want to make any stops before we get to the mall.” She winked her eye in a knowingly manner that suggest that she knew their boys familiar behaviors.

 He left the bathroom, nodding his head in agreement and winking, as she smiled.

 Melissa was in the shower thinking about her wonderful, faultless marriage to Darius. He was every woman’s dream—six-feet-two inches, nicely built with a dark chocolate skin tone and seventeen years later, he was still able to turn her on with his bright white smile.

Darius hopped in the shower after Melissa, and they were dressed in less than thirty minutes.

 “Baby, do you want me to fix you some cereal as well?” Darius asked, while walking toward the kitchen. Their master bedroom suite was diagonal from the kitchen.

“Yes, thank you. I will be ready in a few minutes. I just need to finish my makeup.” She winked at Darius.

 The boys were finished with their breakfast and had gone upstairs to finish getting dressed when Melissa entered the kitchen.

 “Hurry up, boys!” Melissa yelled upstairs as she was finishing her last bite of cereal. “Your dad and I are ready to go to the mall now.”

Darius was standing next to her with his hand behind her back gracefully touching the top of her buttocks. She turned and kissed him once again while she waited on the kids’ response. Melissa and Darius kept the passion going in their marriage.

 After some time had passed, ten-year-old Joshua, the youngest son who favored Melissa’s father deep wavy hair, pointed nose and rich chocolate skin, came running down the stairs waving his stuffed bunny in his right hand. He interrupted his parents talking and asked a question that he had been thinking about all morning.

 “Am I going to take Easter Bunny pictures at the mall today? All of my friends said that they are taking pictures with the Easter Bunny this weekend.”

  Laughing with Darius over his question, Melissa responded with a slight chuckle. “Probably not, Joshua. We are going to the mall to get a gift for Grandpa Jimmy. His birthday is in two weeks. Plus, Easter is about—”

 “But, Mom,” Joshua interrupted.

  “Don’t ‘but’ me. It is time to go! Go get your brothers. We are getting ready to leave. Tell Joseph to turn on the alarm and lock up so we can get going. Your dad and I will be in the car waiting for you guys to come out.”

 “Okay, Mom,” Joshua groaned, whining and pouting as he stomped his feet back upstairs.

 Joshua thought to himself, I’ll bring my stuffed bunny just in case. He figured that he could change his mother’s mind if he tried hard enough while they were on their way.

 As Melissa sat in the car with Darius, she reflected on the season of the year. Spring was her favorite time of the year. 

 Darius and Melissa were approaching their seventeen-year anniversary next month, on June 1 to be exact, and their marriage was growing stronger than ever. They had three handsome young boys—Joshua, Jacob, and Joseph. Joshua favored Darius and Jacob had Melissa’s characteristics.

They had a beautiful home, and their own company, Edwards and Edwards Accounting Firm, which they started shortly after they were married.

Darius was the perfect man for Melissa. She had always believed he was called into the ministry, but he didn’t think it was time to accept the calling until he had gotten his life together. God had another plan for him.




Communication, Sex and Money

17 Apr




Now that you have decided to wait until you are married to have sex, let’s discuss something extra…Communication and Money! Yes, your milk is not just your goodies; it is your conversation and your money!


How can you enjoy sex with your husband and neither of you can talk with one another and the money is looking FUNNY?


Your husband will be the King of the castle; you must learn how to submit. Learn first by submitting to God now.


Matthew 6:33


But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.







Having a healthy dialogue with God on a daily basis and yourself mentally can aid in the development of effective communication. Effective communication denotes intimacy. If you are not married then no one is worth your undivided attention in communication and your hard earned money. If you have said, “I do!” then it is time to get things in order.


How can this be done?


Understanding the channels of communication is essential, that is the perception and the reception of communicating.


Perception is what you perceive to be said and reception is the actual oneness of one’s ears to listen to what is received. This is done through body language, eye contact and a language that is understood between two parties.


How should you talk to your future husband?

What does good communication look like?


Perception is what you perceive to be spoken and reception is the actual openness of one’s ears to listen to what is being said so it can be received. Communication at its best is demonstrated through good listening skills.

This is done through body language, eye contact and a language that is comprehended between two parties.


While dating one should consider effective communication techniques, this will aid in assisting each individual to understand one another and to work together.


How should you talk to your husband?


What does good communication look like?


Implement this:


  1. Hold each other’s hands and make eye contact as you have regular conversations and intense moments of fellowships.

Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.

1 Peter 4:8


  1. Resolve conflict before you both go to sleep at night.

BE ANGRY, AND yet DO NOT SIN; do not let the sun go down on your anger.


Ephesians 4:26


3. Practice forgiving and forgetting.


Here are some rules to follow:


  1. When you are in an intense moment of fellowship each party is allowed to speak their mind in increments of five minutes are less.
  2. Don’t bring up past mistakes.


Like a dog that returns to its vomit Is a fool who repeats his folly.

Proverbs 26:11


  1. Don’t hit below the belt. This is not an opportunity to impose hurt or pain.


  1. Your husband is not the enemy.

For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

Ephesians 6:12


  1. Keep God first and other people’s opinions advice and suggestions are OUT!

“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

Matthew 6:33






We all desire it and generally speaking before marriage, what is yours is yours. However after you say I do, everything becomes ours. The 2 shall become 1.


  1. Right now, your money is your money. However, after you get married your money and his money becomes our money.


That is right, not two accounts, not the words “mine and yours” but one account.


Remember you are married for a lifetime not just in the meantime.


So, what do you need to do to prepare financially for your mate to be?


  1. Start saving now! 10% Tithe and 10% You! That is right, pay God first and then pay yourself ten percent.  Put some money away before it touches your hand. Set up a direct deposit before you get paid.


Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. Test me in this,” says the LORD Almighty, “and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that you will not have room enough for it.


Malachi 3:10


  1. Eliminate and cancel bad debt. (i.e. meaningless credit cards or even unsecured loans).

Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for he who loves his fellowman has fulfilled the law.

Romans 13:8


  1. Help others…give so that it will be given back to you.

“Give, and it will be given to you. They will pour into your lap a good measure– pressed down, shaken together, and running over. For by your standard of measure it will be measured to you in return.”

Luke 6:38


  1. Bargain shop ladies…catch a good sale, clip coupons, and spend less than what you earn and operate in delayed gratification-do you really need that purchase now.
  2. Invest and start a business, start several businesses. Remember the woman in proverbs, she was a smart woman!  She started a business in the middle of a recession.


She considers a field and buys it;
   out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.

Proverbs 31:16


Why spend $700.00 on a purse, when you can save or invest $650.00 of it and spend $50.00 on a shopping spree. And guess what you can still hold your head high and LOOK GOOD!


Most of all ladies…let’s celebrate each other. Today might not be your day, tomorrow might be your friends and the next day someone you never imagined is getting married but soon it will be your day. Until then, prepare yourself and don’t give out any milk for FREE!


I am in a romantic mood…wow! Teary eyed too…

8 Apr

I am watching, The Marriage Chronicles…done right now.I am about to work more on my sex book.


The quote of the day!

22 Mar

The quote of the day!


Making Marriage…

23 Jan

Making Marriage Work…